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Tuesday Truths 2018 Edition v8 SPECIAL EDITION

Hello Tuesday Truths Readers!

It’s been a whirlwind since we last communicated and I’m sharing BIG NEWS! See below:

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Washington, DC – February 15, 2018 – The Board of Directors of the Asian Pacific American Institute for Congressional Studies (APAICS) is pleased to announce the appointment of Madalene Xuan-Trang Mielke as its next President and Chief Executive Officer, succeeding S. Floyd Mori who announced his retirement in October 2017. Mori has led APAICS for five years and fostered the organization’s significant growth in membership, engagement, and revenues during his tenure.
Mielke has more than 20 years of experience in political and leadership training and non-profit fundraising. She has spent her entire professional career working to bring diversity to the political process and mentoring candidates, elected officials and staff across the country. Mielke comes to APAICS from Arum Group, LLC., a political and non-profit consulting firm that she founded in 2002.
Secretary Norman Y. Mineta, who founded APAICS in 1994, remarked, “Madalene has demonstrated excellence in leadership and community engagement and I look forward to working with her to grow the organization to new heights.”
Representative Judy Chu (D-CA), Chair of the Congressional Asian Pacific American Caucus (CAPAC) noted, “Madalene is an exceptional leader, and will bring APAICS to new levels of success. Now, more than ever, we need to increase the engagement and participation of the AAPI community in the political process at all levels of government. We have increasing numbers of AAPI elected officials and AAPI candidates running for office, and they will all benefit tremendously from her innovative and strategic thinking.” 
 
Mielke added, “I am deeply honored to have the opportunity to serve as APAICS’ next CEO. I look forward to working with the board and our stakeholders to highlight APAICS’ mission while expanding the organization’s platform as a resource to the AAPI community.”
Mielke will join APAICS in mid-March. Mori will continue to work with APAICS through its annual gala in May to ensure a smooth leadership transition.  
The Asian Pacific American Institute for Congressional Studies (APAICS) is a national non-partisan, nonprofit 501(c)(3) organization dedicated to promoting Asian Pacific American participation and representation at all levels of the political process, from community service to elected office. APAICS programs focus on developing leadership, building public policy knowledge, and filling the political pipeline for Asian Pacific Americans to pursue public office at the local, state, and federal levels.
Visit apaics.org for more information. 
Contact: Helen Ruggiero at helen@apaics.org.

I’m looking forward to this next chapter in my career and greatly appreciate all those who supported me during this process.

What does this mean for my firm and Tuesday Truths? I will no longer be working in a paid capacity to partisan groups or candidates, however I will continue to work within the leadership development space and with non partisan entities to encourage voter registration/civic engagement. Tuesday Truths will go on hiatus until I can determine how much attention I can give towards maintaining the quality of article assessment and engagement. I hope that you will continue to read the archives and find the existing articles helpful in your career and personal development.

You can always connect with me via Twitter or through the Arum Group, LLC Facebook page. May you always find your tribe to uplift you and be of service to others who can benefit from your experience. We all have the power to make a difference. Thank you for your readership and for helping to build this community.

Until next time!

— Madalene

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Tuesday Truths 2018 Edition v7

So many reasons to celebrate because not only is it Mardi Gras, it’s also GALentine’s Day! Having a sisterhood of women who are supportive of your work and collaborate to work on projects = AMAZING! I’m fortunate to also spend my volunteer time with the Women’s Information Network (WIN) and I’ll be doing a WIN 101 with them tonight, a perfect way to start my evening.

Let’s get to Tuesday Truths!

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  • I’m thrilled to hear of the early ticket sales for Black Panther and I am eagerly anticipating seeing it on the big screen. The question of who’s allowed to wear the Black Panther costume has come up and I’m torn on the implications. Here’s an article from the NYT that delves into whether this is cultural appropriation or not. My personal opinion is that I want see more Black Panthers from kids of color as well as those who are white – role models should be inspired from all races, ethnic backgrounds & religions to be a diverse cross section.

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  • Scheduling can be a conundrum, especially if your work revolves around someone else’s schedule. If you have the ability to control your schedule so that you can allocate time to do your most pressing work, build it into your calendar so that you can fully concentrate. I use Calendly to help me schedule appointments and that allows me to also block out time so that people automatically know when I’m unavailable. Here are some suggestions on how to create a schedule that will work for you.

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See you next Tuesday!

— Madalene

 

 

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Tuesday Truths 2018 Edition v6

Hope you’re having a terrific week! I was in Houston over the weekend doing a training at the Harris County Democratic Party. It was fantastic to meet people who are engaged in the political process and work with them to improve their technical skills. If you want to learn how to get more politically involved, let me know!

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  • There is still 10 months to 2018 and that means you have time ahead of you to meet your goals for the year. Some people like to ease into it and skip January as a goal setting month. So if you’re in need of a boost to help you on your way, look no further. Don’t be afraid of failing and don’t let that fear control you. You’ll be doing scary stuff in no time (a reminder for me to get back on the surf board!).

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  • Looking for a playlist that will reduce anxiety? It’s scientifically proven that these songs can reduce your heart rate and in fact, the number one song is so effective, it’s advised that you don’t listen to it while driving. Let me know what songs you like to relieve stress.

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See you next Tuesday! Thanks for reading/sharing/subscribing!

— Madalene

 

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Tuesday Truths 2018 Edition v5

It’s the last Tuesday of the month as we roll through winter. For those of you watching the State of the Union tonight, may you have fun drinking games to entertain you and for those of you who are not, it’s OK to have this moment of self-care. I’m undecided because I know that it’s likely that my blood pressure will rise so watch my twitter to see what I decide to do!

Here’s Tuesday Truths!

  • Regardless of whether you own your business or you’re a staffer in a firm, you have a voice to narrate your story and accomplishments. It’s important to own that and to silence any internal dialogue that may cause self-doubt. It’s normal to go through a checklist to assure yourself that you’ve dotted your “i’s” and crossed your “t’s”. Once you slide into territory that questions your abilities, then you need to nip that in the bud. Here are 3 beliefs that can harm your confidence.

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  • If you love the Myers-Briggs personality test then you’ll enjoy reading about the Enneagram personality test. Combined with the Myers-Briggs, you’ll have a more rounded profile of what kind of work environment is suited to you. I’m a #8 “the Challenger” with a splash of #4 “the Individualist”. Share what your personality type!

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  • We’re finishing out the 1st month of 2018 and are you feeling like you’re headed for a burnout? I started a daily gratitude list to give myself a moment to reflect and stop feeling like I was on a hamster wheel. I’m making an effort to be more present in my relationships by nurturing the ones that are mutually joyful. I no longer want to feel guilty for my choices and give myself the space to be happy with my priorities. My definition of success is not yours so keep those promises to yourself.

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  • I’m usually a fan of Mondays (don’t come at me!) because it was a terrific way to see the work colleagues and to think about the work ahead. If you need help in making Mondays work for you, then let’s take a different approach and you may find that Mondays are becoming something you like.

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***Don’t forget that tomorrow (Wednesday, 1/31 at 3:15pm Eastern/12:15pm Pacific) I’ll be talking with Anna Chu from the National Women’s Law Center on Facebook Live. Come see us and send in your questions!***

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Thanks for reading/sharing and if you haven’t already subscribed, I hope you’ll join the conversation!

— Madalene

 

 

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Tuesday Truths 2018 Edition v4

This has been a doozy of a week: government shutdown, women’s march and a marked increase of activism. It’s madness and yet, we believe in our democracy and our right to voice our discontent. As imperfect as it is our government is dependent on the people who drive it (voters and who we elect). If you don’t work in the industries that perpetuate it, feel free to ask questions and get involved in ways that are comfortable to you. Being an active citizen is important to understanding how your neighbors may be struggling or the challenges that people face in different situations. It’s about learning and acknowledging people’s pain. Society is built on interaction and I hope that we can find ways where we can better understand one another.

Here’s Tuesday Truths:

  • I’ve shared a lot about Career Contessa – they have terrific articles on career development. Give them a follow! In the meantime, take a refresher and remind yourself how to get to back to the basics. They’re sharing templates on how to communicate via email, whether it’s to ask for an informational interview or following up with someone that you met at an event. Perfect items to keep in your arsenal.

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  • Most of you know that I was the Director of Training for the Democratic Party back in the day & my love of training runs deep. I not only advocate for more women elected leaders/candidates but also more women operatives. To reach those upper echelons, women must also work in roles on the campaigns that can lead to management. My specialization is through fundraising and it’s a skill that is easily transferrable as well as highly regarded in any campaign. A lot of women went through the field route and that helps in management because that’s the basis for how you allocate your resources. Women shouldn’t be pigeon-holed into only the finance positions and those with a fundraising background should be senior leadership meetings. This allows you as a fundraiser to understand that allocation and to see how decisions are made. GET IT MY SISTERS!

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  • I was so moved by this piece written by Janelle Harris called “For Colored Girls in Their 30s and 40s Who Feel Life May Have Passed Them By“. Believing in yourself, no matter what stage you are in life is incredibly important to understanding and being true to your story. I want so much to be the cheerleader to those women who want to achieve their own success (however way they define it). Your accomplishments, regardless of how small you think they may be, are the milestones in your journey. No one can take that away from you. Decisions that were made that led to whatever situation can be cross corrected. Be with people who will uplift you and give you the encouragement you need when you’re feeling low. Depend on yourself to be your own friend when you can’t find a listening ear. You drive this train and when you reach your destination, it will be because you believed in your abilities. Your future is yours to create. We’re cheering for you!

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  • In that vein (see above) if your dreams change, it’s OK! There are some articles that talk about not sharing your ambitions with others and keeping them close to your vest. I can see the merits of that perspective. It’s my preference to talk it out. I have a million ideas ALL. THE. TIME. How many of them actually come to reality? A good number of the ones that are attainable do come true. The bigger ones that demand real planning, monetary investment & implementation have not. Simply because they are dreams and not necessarily something that I come back to consistently. When you’ve come back consistently to an idea that doesn’t give you any mojo, you may want to re-evaluate if your goals have changed. Here are other signs that your dreams may have changed.

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  • This is a long read and well worth it. Who doesn’t want to a guide to building successful teams? It seems logical & simple and yet it’s not. If you’ve experienced poor management and back stabbing colleagues, then you understand that no matter the size of the organization, setting the example starts from the top. Key takeaways: have a plan, respect your colleagues, metrics are essential, and accountability. Easy peasy, right?

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  • Did you know that your brain has a delete button? I’ve started to recognize that I no longer remember (let’s be honest, care) about certain aspects of my job because I no longer have a steel trap memory. I was placing blame on me getting old (#truth) and after I read the article, I realized that my brain was simply deleting the parts that I no longer needed to use. Why exactly am I remembering the name of the lobbyist who handles a certain association when I no longer engage with them? The author equated the brain’s function as part of pruning as you do when you garden. I’ve always had a horrible time keeping plants alive so this may be the one time where I’m actually successful in gardening.

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That’s it for this week! Let me know if you have any topics you’d like for me to cover. Appreciate your readership and please share with your network!

— Madalene

 

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Tuesday Truths 2018 Edition v3

I’m so excited to announce that Anna Chu, VP for Strategy & Policy for the National Women’s Law Center (NWLC) is doing a Facebook LIVE with me on Wednesday, January 31st at 3:15pm eastern/12:15pm pacific. For those who don’t know, NWLC has been advancing and protecting women’s rights since 1972 and most recently, partnered with the Times Up movement to house their legal defense fund. Be sure to tune in at @ArumGroupLLC to catch this interview (with the new FB algorithm, you can follow the page & then “See First” in newsfeed so that you can see updates) . Send in questions or email me. You can also get a reminder by rsvping here.

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Let’s get to Tuesday Truths!

  • Did you know that it takes on average 66 days for a habit to set? It’s important to track everyday within this period so that you can see how you’re doing on a daily basis. Another important aspect of forming a habit is accountability. I started a project with a small group of friends to help me improve on a habit /mindset and it’s been helpful to know that my friends are there to make me honest. If you want to start a new (good) habit and kill a old (bad) habit, take a look at these techniques.

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  • These days when I’m working, I give myself a break to check social media and I want to cut back.  Since I walk Aurnia in the afternoon that gives me a chance to get into nature, although these days it takes more time to bundle up then take the walk because it’s so cold. I excuse myself on the technology break in that I think I’m seeing the latest news updates when I know that being that updated on the news can actually cause more stress. Here are 5 ways that you can take a work break that doesn’t include your phone.

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  • I really enjoyed reading this article from the NYT about managing your career. It’s always good to take a look at where there may be gaps in what you’ve been doing and taking steps to fill them in. I’ve been in the work force for 20+ years and I still don’t know everything. This article reminded me about where I’ve been lazy or at the very least complacent. It’s a good overview of the pieces that you need to create a strong foundation for your career to grow. I encourage you to take a look!

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  • As a person who works in politics, campaigns are about telling the story of the candidate or if in the case of advocacy, the story of those who are being affected. It’s the same mindset about yourself when you’re looking to create a career. Your success is also dependent on how you tell your story. Don’t be afraid to claim your truth and power.

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  • This is a long read and it’s sooooo worth it. When people come to me for advice or mentorship, I immediately tell them that I don’t have the answers. Every person’s situation is unique. It’s your life/career so you have to take responsibility to dig deep for your truth. I can’t help you figure out “the why” in your life. Once you figure that out, you’ll find that a path is more accessible because you are taking steps to achieve your goals (“the why”). I’m happy to help with the logistics of your journey. The destination is up to you. Bookmark this article because you’ll want to re-visit it multiple times throughout your life.

Thanks so much for reading/sharing! If you found it helpful, please subscribe and encourage others to join this community.

— Madalene

 

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Tuesday Truths 2018 Edition v2

How are you enjoying 2018 so far? It’s been a blustery and unusually cold January with the bomb cyclone making its way up the east coast so we’re warmly ensconced reading, writing and making plans!

Here’s Tuesday Truths!

  • When I was a child, I skipped a grade and did math problems over the summer after watching Captain Kangaroo – do you even know who that is 😉 – as much as I enjoyed the accolades of being told that I was smart, I didn’t enjoy it. So much so that when my mom would check my math, I made up numbers as answers instead of showing my work which only made me do more work because I didn’t really do the work in the 1st place. It’s very tiring meeting expectations. There needs to be a balance between reaching your potential and challenging yourself to learn/explore problem solving. This created a mindset for me that I didn’t shake until later in life. I hardly failed at academics and my source of self esteem was from knowing that I was smart due to my grades. As a result, I became more formulaic and relied on the process to get to a positive outcome. In essence, I became lazy and also dependent on not using my talent and learned skills to delve through a problem. I was afraid to fail and it stunted my growth. Acknowledging the situation helped me to better understand myself and teach me how I needed to learn. Whenever I want to learn something new, I recognize that I don’t need to be the best. I embrace the process of learning as well as failing. Its with practice and giving myself the space to learn that I can achieve my goals. That’s not to say that I give myself a gold star for every attempt. If I’m not putting in the work then it’s on me for not getting where I want to go. This growth mindset is imperative to thrive.

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  • As a follow up to the growth mindset is an advice column answer to “Why Am I So Lazy?”. Fear of failing runs deep! If you look back at previous posts, I’ve talked about how I consider myself a procrastinator. I read a lot of articles about productivity and about the efficient use of time. How do high performing people operate? I don’t see them as procrastinators since they have to manage their time to the minute. I used to have a highly organized schedule that outlined how my time was spent. Being over scheduling helped to focus my mind. It also meant that I felt over scheduled (insert 22.5 minutes of fun time here). So, I removed how I scheduled my time and I hit the pendulum in the other direction. All of these things are mechanisms to cope with procrastinating and yet it doesn’t get to the root of the problem so reading this column drives back the idea of being fearful of failing. It’s always the simplest of things that can create the biggest of problems.

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  • Remember to take care of yourself. Running on full steam can cause damage and scheduling breaks will allow you to fully re-charge. Here are 19 things that you can do for yourself. Some of them are more reflective and may cause you to wince. Acknowledging your vulnerabilities sets you up to find the solutions to move forward. One of my favorite notes in this article is taking 100 percent responsibility for your life. All the while, create your own destiny. Let me know what has been working for you!

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  • As a political fundraiser, this negotiation tip from Tanya Tarr really resonated with me. When I work with candidates, especially 1st time candidates, I not only go through the process of asking for money, I work through the frame of mind – the why behind the ask. Most campaigns don’t go through the process of asking what values you as a candidate represent because it is so reflective. Campaigns are at the heart values based so when you start attaching that to money, you are going straight to “the why” you’re running for office. It was also a terrific refresher for me to when I need to put on my big girl pants and ask for money on projects.

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  • We’re in the beginning weeks of a new year so let’s take steps so that we’re not walking down to the path towards burn-out. Hopefully you were able to use part of December re-charging and relaxing. You are hopefully also returning refreshed and ready to go. Let’s use some of that energy to create a work environment that allows for self care and that means if you’re the boss, starting with you setting the example.

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Thanks for reading/sharing. If you know someone who would benefit from Tuesday Truths, please encourage them to subscribe!

— Madalene

 

 

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Tuesday Truths 2018 Edition v1

Hi Tuesday Truths readers! Welcome back and Happy New Year! We re-started the clock for 2018 and we’re excited for the next 51 weeks.

Let’s go!

  • In recent months, I’ve had friends who left their very stable consulting jobs for new careers. They basically were burnt out and wanted jobs that fulfilled their passions. When I saw this article in Forbes, it really re-engaged my mind about the ideas that I have in my own mind about starting a new business outside of my current portfolio. These women turned their skill sets into new careers in different fields. It’s an amazing leap of faith (in yourself!) and isn’t for the faint of heart. Remember when we talked about failing bigger in 2017? What ideas have been churning in your brain??

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  • We’re technically in 2018 and although these questions are meant for the end of the year, it’s always good to ask them of yourself so that you can give yourself an assessment of where you are and where you were. My favorite question was, “Who enriched my life in a big way”.  These are definitely not your standard reflection questions and that brings a different mentality to how you answer the questions, and ultimately how you see yourself.

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  • One of the best parts about being a consultant is that I’ve had enough experience to see a variety of game plans and knowing my role, I can develop my own plan within the overall campaign with different clients. As a result, life isn’t cookie cutter and I get to do my own thing. If you’re looking to make moves on your career these tips can help you into the fast lane. All of these things apply to me even working as an independent consultant and even more so. Get out there and show your work!

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  • One of the things that I’m working on for 2018 is to be kind and to engage in more acts of kindness (random or otherwise). As a result, I hope that decreases any internal biases and a level of righteousness that can lead to being prideful. This certainly gets exacerbated when communicating with people who have different opinions/values than my own. It doesn’t help in continuing dialogue and the more time we can spend out of our echo chamber, the better it is to understand those who aren’t like us. Which leads me to the question is it possible to love your enemies? I think it’s an exercise worth trying.

Thanks for reading/sharing & subscribing! See you next week!

— MXM

 

 

 

Tuesday Truths 2017 Edition v52

This is it – the last Tuesday Truths for 2017! I can’t wait to see what shenanigans we can get into for 2018.

Let’s get to it!

  • The end of the year always brings reflection and scheming for new plans in the new year. One of the best things that I would advocate is to surround yourself with people who will bring the best out of you without drama or negativity. Be with people who will push you to strive for higher aspirations and help you find the motivation that you need to reach for loftier goals. Together you create positive energy and be one another’s support without contempt. Someone else’s success doesn’t cast a shadow on the light that you bring. If you need tips on how to build your own tribe (I hope that you can find community here too!) check it out. Thank you for being a part of my tribe 🙂

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  • Tackling new year’s resolutions? Here’s how you keep your promise to yourself. Incremental is always good. My goal of writing this blog has been going strong – 104 weeks straight and counting. I am a creature of habit so getting into a routine is pretty easy for me because I crave it as part of my personality. For Lent last year I decided that I would do more volunteer time instead of giving up anything so I started going to the DC Central Kitchen on a monthly basis and I will hit my one year mark in January. You’ve got people cheering you on as you make your resolutions so feel free to share them!

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  • Since I’m always striving to be #livinahappylife, this Harvard study piqued my interest about truly living a happy life. I see older couples who have only one another as a source of interaction and although they may be in their late 70s, I wonder if they’re really living a full life because they aren’t spending time outside of their marriage in their own activities. Although I’m an introvert, I know that I will need time with my friends and activities with others outside of my spouse to feel like I’m living a fulfilling life. Close relationships with family and friends are key factors in delaying mental and physical decline. So if you want to age in a healthy way, find your people! Are you seeing a thread in this end of year post?

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  • I think I’m a glass half full kind of person and although I spend a lot of time trying to think positively, I need to replenish the well. 2017 was a Debbie Downer year for me (as well as many others) so I’m going to take a more positive outlook for 2018. If you want to join me in training your brain to think more positively then let’s get going! I’m going to be more active in doing random acts of kindness.

I want to take this moment to thank you for taking this ride with me. I always look forward to your comments and your feedback. If you have a story to share or an article that will help your fellow Tuesday Truth readers, let me know. Your participation means a lot and I get so much joy in seeing you tag me on other social media platforms about articles you’ve read through the blog. I hope you take the time for rest and self-care because 2018 is going to be tremendous. Thank you for liking, sharing, commenting and subscribing. See you next week!

— Madalene

 

 

 

Tuesday Truths 2017 Edition v51

We’re 2 weeks away from closing out 2017. I’m ready – are you?

Let’s get to Tuesday Truths!

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  • Productivity is the buzz word for almost any new year’s resolution. How you start your day can set the tone for the rest of it. Here’s a guide to design your routine so that you can maximize your productivity. It’s not for everyone and you shouldn’t beat yourself up if you don’t adhere to it everyday. I usually exercise in the morning because I don’t have time any other time of the day so when I skip due to appointments or just out of sheer laziness, I know that I have another day to get on it.

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  • Since we’re talking about productivity, how about more ways to work smarter and not harder? I believe in making your own luck & that only manifests when you put the pieces together to create the environment that will best produce the results you want. Most people think that I’m on top of my game and to be honest, I’ve always been a procrastinator. I use RescueTime to help me control my time and I use timers to block off when I need to most concentrate. The article is terrific because it also shares how you can create an optimal to-do list without feeling overwhelmed, techniques to turn off work & loads of other ideas. Then there are some folks who are like, “Screw it! I hate productivity tips!” well we got you covered here too. Whatever you choose to help you is only effective if you can channel that energy to focus. Find different ways to get you there. It’s never a one size fits all solution.

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  • I love when I have friends who are sharing their knowledge and my friend, Cheryl Hori wrote a piece on millennials giving online contributions for Campaigns and Elections. Check it out, especially if you’re looking to see how to get that segment involved in your donor plans.

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  • When it’s the end of the year, people tend to think about how they’re doing in their professional careers and where they want to go next. Whether it’s a new position within a company or a new job/career altogether, recognizing how you work with people and how you report/manage your supervisor is critical to your everyday work life. If you have a bad manager and a good job, what do you do? Studies have shown that people are likely to leave vs staying because that kind of working environment becomes toxic. A manager who understands their role to their team and values their team members will earn a higher investment from their team, even if the job itself isn’t necessarily the work individuals want to do. Why? An environment that promotes your work is less stressful so when you start to think about your career trajectory, think about not only the job itself, think about the people who you will need to report to on a daily basis.

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  • People have such high expectations about the holidays and new year. I’ve always been a person who appreciates the anticipation vs the actual day and the reason that I like Christmas is because the spirit of generosity and kindness is so celebrated and should be exercised every day of the year, just not on 12/25 or the month of December. Here are tips to avoid disappointment while celebrating this holiday season although I would add that a lot of these suggestions are good for not being disappointed in life.

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One more week to go so thank you for taking this ride with me every Tuesday!

— Madalene