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It’s been 2 weeks since the Election and I’m still recovering. I’ve taken this week off to spend with loved ones and to reflect on the many things that I hold dear. I want to recognize your role in my life and how having you in this community has been truly rewarding. Thank you for your comments and your suggestions. I hope you can spend this time with those who bring you love and comfort. I look forward sharing my reservoir!
Here’s Tuesday Truths!
- Recently, I’ve been spending a lot of time out in nature and enjoying a warmer than usual Fall. I have such a busy mind that I can tire myself out thinking way too much. When my mind wanders, it can sometimes bring a fearfulness with it that can also cause anxiety. To calm myself, I try to bring myself to the present and really experience the moment. Most importantly, I try to have more methodical and intentional breathing. Some of these techniques are rooted in Buddhist teachings so let me know if any of these techniques help you. Buzzfeed has 8 ways that you can also step away from anxiety and feel better about the future. If you have any additional suggestions to center yourself, please share!
- I’m fortunate that my close friends and family share a lot of my progressive ideals so Thanksgiving for me won’t be as awkward as it might be for others. If you find yourself having difficult conversations, you may need to put aside your emotions to engage in a dialogue that will make you want to scream, but research shows that you can reduce bias (which is ultimately the goal) by not telling them that they’re racist right from the get-go. This is going take an enormous amount of patience (which is probably running thin because it feels like the fight for inclusion has been ongoing since the beginning of time). I highly recommend reading the case studies and examples because we want systemic change and it’s going to require a lot more work on our part to bring a change in those hearts and minds.
- I don’t know about you, but I’ve heard the word “empathy” tossed around a lot these days and there are times when people try to find common ground, they take the moment away from the affected person. To better understand how empathy is really a skill, read on!
- I was especially moved to read an interview of Sonya Chung, a Korean American author based in NYC as she talks about race and literature. Her second novel, The Loved Ones was published in October of 2016 and it tells the story of an African American father and a Korean American teenager who cares for the father’s biracial children. I love that she’s a PG (Prince George’s County) gal like me!
- If you’re feeling like a failure, let Oprah tell you that you’re bigger than this one experience. Learn from it and get yourself centered to make the right decision for your next move.
- I spend a fair amount of time in the Boston area so I feel a small affinity with these Boston U students who did a photo gallery with Elle UK to share why they need feminism.
- With so many social gatherings gearing up through the end of the year, be prepared introverts with the introvert-hangover. I experience this when I have an all day conference and I’m a speaker on a panel, I usually get a headache towards the end of the day even though I try to stay hydrated etc.. Give yourself the license to skip some of the activities or cut out early. I go to work receptions knowing exactly who I need to talk with and once that’s done, I discreetly leave. I know that there will be times when I will need to stay for the long haul and be more sociable, so when those events get added to my calendar, I try to prepare for the intensity.
- Ending this post with how gratitude affects your brain because we shouldn’t only reflect during Thanksgiving, but ALL. THE. TIME. If I don’t thank you folks enough for reading/sharing and subscribing, I really mean it! Let’s share that positive energy.
Have an enjoyable rest of the week! See you next Tuesday!