May is Asian American Heritage Month and there are a lot of cultural and political festivities to celebrate the AAPI story. Tuesday night will be Asian Prom, where a lot of my colleagues and luminaries will be all gussied up. There’s a lot of going out and networking – just perfect for the introvert in me 🙂 Needless to say, I know how to harness my energy to make it most useful to me. There’s a whole political fundraising schedule for these kinds of events. The Congressional Black Caucus Foundation has their legislative conference in September while the Congressional Hispanic Caucus Institute does a series of events during Hispanic Heritage month (September 15-October 15) as well. I was asked by a male colleague if I bought a new dress every time I had to attend these galas and my answer is that I have a closest dedicated to formal attire and my dresses go into rotation. It’s a good thing that Facebook has the memories feature because I can see what years I wore what dress. The dress that I’m wearing for the Tuesday night gala is a dress that I pulled from the archives. I think the last time I wore it, I attended a CHCI gala and there aren’t any photos of me in it so it’s new to you! It also helps that I have generally stayed the same size throughout the years so I can continue what’s in my closet without having to do too much damage on my wallet.
Here’s Tuesday Truths!
- I like being unique in lots of things. Iris Apfel is a style icon – she’s not afraid to own her uniqueness and she has a terrific way about approaching life. This doesn’t just about the aesthetic but also how you want people to **see you**. Life is too short to be spent thinking about how to blend in.
- I have always said during the many trainings I’ve done that working on campaigns is like working in a start up many many times over during each election cycle. Generally, there’s not a lot of institutional knowledge and the “adult(s)” in the room are in the late 30s-60ish age group. There’s a lot of young people who are looking to move ahead. The big difference is that election cycles are short and when you work in an organization such as a start up, the payoff can be much later. The similarities, however are tremendous. So when you’re looking for a raise, take heed of some of these points and you’ll see that you have a lot ahead of you.
- The job market in the DC area is crazy. An opening at Facebook generated thousands of resumes. THOUSANDS! So when you get into the final stages (2-3 rounds) of an interview, don’t let these mistakes prevent you from scoring the job. Keep thinking like a job candidate/applicant to win the organization over until you get the job offer. When it’s a tough job market, you might find that your “funemployment” status is harder to shake so don’t get caught up with an opportunity that is presenting red flags. Take notice and value your worth.
- People spent the last weekend celebrating their mothers. CNN sent disposable cameras around the world to explore what motherhood is like for moms of the world. Check out the photos that were shared and how being a mother, regardless of where you’re located, means doing things so that your children can be happy and live a good life.
- I’m all for women empowerment and showing solidarity for my sister friends who are battling against misogyny. So when people decide that women who are not supportive of other women who are advocating policies that adversely affect women and discriminate against groups due to their bigotry, are anti-woman or not a feminist, I get extremely annoyed. Remove the gender factor and you are left with a person whose values I whole heartedly disagree with on a very base level. It’s almost the equivalent to when I work with AAPI candidates. First and foremost, my values don’t change when it comes to the ethnicity of a candidate. If you share the same values as me and you’re “fill in the blank“, then we’re going to get a long just fine. I may want more AAPIs and communities of color represented in elected office but I will not actively work with someone who advocating for anything remotely related to discriminatory views – selective sexism.
- We’re talking negotiation again and it feels so good! Here’s a terrific article from Washington Post Jobs on the 15 rules for negotiating a job offer. I always say that this is an opportunity for you and the employer to win together. No one wants to feel like they came out of a negotiation a loser. You want a WIN/WIN every time.
- From time to time, I do #ootd posts on my instagram. In all honesty, I am decidedly less creative in the winter months with my wardrobe selection than when the temperatures get warmer. Getting the chance to layer up and to wear more summer attire is more appealing than throwing on a sweater and pants on the regular. However the warmer months also means dealing with humid DC afternoons and office buildings that over compensate with cranking up the air conditioning. I’m fortunate that I don’t necessarily follow the skirt suit uniform so if you’re looking for creative inspiration for what professional attire you can wear in the summer then look no further. Elle magazine is sharing 11 women and their go-to outfits for the summer. #8 and #10 are my favorites!
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Thanks for reading/sharing! See you next Tuesday!