Tuesday Truths 2017 Edition v34 VACATION EDITION

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I’m out of DC & am super happy about it. My brain is still in motion because white supremacy doesn’t stop for anyone so having conversations with white folks continues to be an educational process for everyone. It’s a test of my patience and helps me to articulate my argument other than “stop being a racist” so that can be exhausting.

As a result, this week’s Tuesday Truths is dedicated to self care and how to keep yourself in peak mental health.

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  • Here are 4 changes that you can make so that you can live a healthier life. I’m so into the power sleeping. I’ve noticed a marked difference in my attitude and overall thought processes when I’ve gotten enough sleep. My least favorite is breakfast. It’s my least favorite meal yet I know that I have to eat so that I can have a productive day.

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  • I have to admit, I’m a big compartmentalizer (is that even a word?) so I tend to put my emotions in check about all sorts of things so when I’m overly tired, my emotions tend to fray and I get a bit more frazzled. I’ve had my share of time talking to my therapist and I’ve recognized that a lot of emotions are static, depending on what negative moment I experienced and didn’t really address. My mother used to tell me that she didn’t want to see me cry because she didn’t want to see me unhappy. I love my mom and that mental pressure to be happy all the time only made me hide from my negative emotions. I’ve come to realize that it’s OK to be vulnerable and that I’m giving myself the space to be self-compassionate.

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  • One of the things that I miss during these times is the warmth of my friends. So many of my closest friends aren’t physically close. With time differences and the trials of daily life, my tribe sustains itself with much scheduled coordination. In fact, I was able to visit with a dear friend 15 hours after she gave birth while I was on a work trip. Friendships are meant to be nurtured and at the same time, it is a matter of give and take. You can be yourself with your flaws while trying to face life’s challenges and your friends will ask for nothing in return. These deep ties further cement our memories and create joy for all of us.

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  • Want a better weekend? Studies show that having eudaimonic happiness over the weekend will lead to a better quality of life. We’ve become more isolated in recent years and so the idea of socializing needs to be re-introduced into our lives. That means actual human interaction and not by a digital platform. Lately, I’ve been having people over for dinner and we’ve set limits on what we can discuss (no work!) which forces all of us to talk about hobbies and topics of interest. I need more play into my life so who wants to hang out and just have fun with me?

I hope you have a chance to take a breather and living your best life. Thanks for reading/sharing & I’ll see you next Tuesday!

— Madalene

2 comments

  1. Aparna

    Thanks for sharing !Love all these and especially the sleep bit, I really need more regular sleep habits. This part really stood out to me : “When we put a child to bed,” she observed, “we reflect on what a wonderful day it was, and how great tomorrow will be. We don’t say, I don’t think you’re going to get your homework done tomorrow. But that’s what we do when we go to bed. We worry.”

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