How are you enjoying 2018 so far? It’s been a blustery and unusually cold January with the bomb cyclone making its way up the east coast so we’re warmly ensconced reading, writing and making plans!
Here’s Tuesday Truths!
- When I was a child, I skipped a grade and did math problems over the summer after watching Captain Kangaroo – do you even know who that is 😉 – as much as I enjoyed the accolades of being told that I was smart, I didn’t enjoy it. So much so that when my mom would check my math, I made up numbers as answers instead of showing my work which only made me do more work because I didn’t really do the work in the 1st place. It’s very tiring meeting expectations. There needs to be a balance between reaching your potential and challenging yourself to learn/explore problem solving. This created a mindset for me that I didn’t shake until later in life. I hardly failed at academics and my source of self esteem was from knowing that I was smart due to my grades. As a result, I became more formulaic and relied on the process to get to a positive outcome. In essence, I became lazy and also dependent on not using my talent and learned skills to delve through a problem. I was afraid to fail and it stunted my growth. Acknowledging the situation helped me to better understand myself and teach me how I needed to learn. Whenever I want to learn something new, I recognize that I don’t need to be the best. I embrace the process of learning as well as failing. Its with practice and giving myself the space to learn that I can achieve my goals. That’s not to say that I give myself a gold star for every attempt. If I’m not putting in the work then it’s on me for not getting where I want to go. This growth mindset is imperative to thrive.
- As a follow up to the growth mindset is an advice column answer to “Why Am I So Lazy?”. Fear of failing runs deep! If you look back at previous posts, I’ve talked about how I consider myself a procrastinator. I read a lot of articles about productivity and about the efficient use of time. How do high performing people operate? I don’t see them as procrastinators since they have to manage their time to the minute. I used to have a highly organized schedule that outlined how my time was spent. Being over scheduling helped to focus my mind. It also meant that I felt over scheduled (insert 22.5 minutes of fun time here). So, I removed how I scheduled my time and I hit the pendulum in the other direction. All of these things are mechanisms to cope with procrastinating and yet it doesn’t get to the root of the problem so reading this column drives back the idea of being fearful of failing. It’s always the simplest of things that can create the biggest of problems.
- Remember to take care of yourself. Running on full steam can cause damage and scheduling breaks will allow you to fully re-charge. Here are 19 things that you can do for yourself. Some of them are more reflective and may cause you to wince. Acknowledging your vulnerabilities sets you up to find the solutions to move forward. One of my favorite notes in this article is taking 100 percent responsibility for your life. All the while, create your own destiny. Let me know what has been working for you!
- Have you ever wanted to write a letter to yourself that you can receive in the future? I saw this on Sree Sreenivasan‘s twitter feed in the beginning of the year and thought it would be cool. Set your intentions or whatever you were thinking at the time. BTW – if you don’t follow Sree, you should. I also shared with you in 2016 his amazing story.
- As a political fundraiser, this negotiation tip from Tanya Tarr really resonated with me. When I work with candidates, especially 1st time candidates, I not only go through the process of asking for money, I work through the frame of mind – the why behind the ask. Most campaigns don’t go through the process of asking what values you as a candidate represent because it is so reflective. Campaigns are at the heart values based so when you start attaching that to money, you are going straight to “the why” you’re running for office. It was also a terrific refresher for me to when I need to put on my big girl pants and ask for money on projects.
- We’re in the beginning weeks of a new year so let’s take steps so that we’re not walking down to the path towards burn-out. Hopefully you were able to use part of December re-charging and relaxing. You are hopefully also returning refreshed and ready to go. Let’s use some of that energy to create a work environment that allows for self care and that means if you’re the boss, starting with you setting the example.
- Since we want you to be a healthy human being, we’re encouraging you to move more. If you have a desk job, here are exercises you can do so that you stay strong. Sitting for long periods of time can put you at risk for heart disease. Let’s get moving!
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